©2008, Vicki Hinze I’m not going to judge their actions. I’m going to believe that their intentions were good and that their hearts were in the right place. I’m going to believe that there wasn’t a smidgen of jealousy, envy or a nasty thought anywhere in the bunch. Admittedly, I’m having to work to believe these things, but I choose to believe them, because the thought of a writer--any writer--deliberately doing harm to another, knowing what it takes... well, it’s just not acceptable to dwell on that. You see, this writer has worked hard but she’s also been fortunate and landed herself a very nice publishing contract. And some others who have worked hard have not enjoyed that bit of luck. But that aside, they know this writer, Lucky, has worked hard and suffered through trials and triumphs and gains and setbacks. She took a risk and made her luck, and she got it. Now suddenly everything she writes is incurably flawed. Whether the others were tearing down her work to build themselves up, I don’t know. Whether they realize that while they copious remarks on what was wrong, not one bothered to mention anything--not one thing--that is right. A lot is right. Lucky and I had a long chat about this situation, and while I refused to advise her on staying with her group or departing--that is a decision that is solely hers to make--it does raise this opportunity to talk with writers about how they treat other writers. First, no one insists that you join a group. No one insists that you read anyone else’s work. And no one insists that you comment on someone else’s work. You join a group by choice. You elect to give your best for the others’ good and you accept their best for your own. It’s a strategic business alliance for mutual benefit. So if you can’t share in the joys and triumphs that result from the collective effort, why are you there? That is the objective: to assist and be assisted in creating the best work possible. I’ve often said that writers should write with passion and compassion. Passion for what you’re writing, and compassion for the people--in the novel, and those who will read it. It went without saying that in a group created to assist and be assisted, one should read with passion and compassion, too. Telling a writer what is wrong is valuable. It’s important. And it’s a core element of why the group formed and everyone is investing in the work being done. But telling a writer what is right is equally valuable if not more so. Because it is on what is right that we build. We take the good and make it stronger and better. We expand it. While we attempt to take what is wrong and make it right. Bad to good. Minimize the bad. Expand the good. Well, if you read someone else’s work and you fail to mention the good, then what have you done for them? Upon what do they build? What strengths have you pointed out for them upon which they can expand? Every writer has strengths and weaknesses. When you read for another, it’s your responsibility to be honest. Honest means honest. It doesn’t mean bringing your own trials, tribulations and/or baggage to the table. You have an obligation--one of your own choosing--to be as objective as humanly possible and to give the work your best. That means identifying weaknesses (with passion AND compassion) and strengths (again, with passion and compassion). Every writer knows the struggle to tell a story just so. The battle to get the right words in the right place at the right time to convey the right emotions for the right reasons to effect the right outcome. We know that it is a writer’s sweat and hair-pulling and sometimes even tears that makes writing look easy and simple. We know that it is anything but simple. We know what it takes because we too make that investment. And all this leads me to ask a question today because this situation is weighing very heavily on my mind this morning. When was the last time? The last time you asked someone else how can I help you? The last time you read and pointed out what’s right as well as what’s wrong? The last time you celebrated someone else’s victory with genuine enthusiasm? The last time you looked beyond you, deliberately left you out of a situation with the express intention of lifting up someone else? Write and read with passion and compassion. Be honest. Absolutely. With others, and also with yourself. Understand that if you’re not a positive influence in someone else’s life, you’re a negative influence. That too raises a question we should answer: “Which do I want to be?” We all know which is destructive and which is constructive. Destroying another in no way elevates us. So if we can’t remove the “me” from our reading for others, then we should recognize it and not read for others. And if that is the situation, then we should then not expect others to read for us. We best serve all by removing ourselves. True, we will lose good, but we also will do no harm. Perhaps such a drastic measure isn’t necessary. Perhaps we hadn’t considered or thought of what we were doing as damaging. Perhaps now, we will. And perhaps we can start by asking ourselves, when was the last time...? Blessings, Vicki
Yesterday, a writer came to me deflated, disillusioned and all but devastated. Her work had been ripped to shreds by a group of fellow writers--one who had by their own choice elected to work as a group to strengthen and assist every other writer in that group.
WARNING: This is a no-edit zone... I love and collect quotes. I came across one a couple days ago that totally speaks to the writer in me: "In every work of genius, we recognize our own rejected thoughts; they come back to us with a certain alienated majesty." —Ralph Waldo Emerson I read Mr. Emerson's words and thought, "Perfect. Exactly the right goal and aspiration and tone for a writer who writes first with purpose." And that made me wonder. How many writers actually identify their goal for their writing? Not what or how much or when they write, but what they hope the work will achieve? What message it will convey to readers? How many writers have defined that message? How many have a clear sense of self and the role it plays in their work? Is this something that most writers think about? Or do they drift story to story, writing the books they choose for a purpose defined only by that work and not by their entire body of work? I've pondered on this quite a bit lately--sitting with one's eyes closed can assist one in seeing the less-than-obvious quite clearly--and I know writers who do both. Or ones who flip from one position--by the book--to the other--by the body of work. And that got me to thinking about Author Theme. If we examine an author's body of work, we do see a recurring theme in all of the books. It doesn't matter what genre they're written in, what classification tags have been assigned to them; plot and tone and characters can vary widely, but the underlying author's theme remains intact. It is the reflection of the author herself. Her perspective, ideas, attitudes and dreams. Readers see and believe and are led to accept what the author wants us to see and believe and accept. We react to the assets the writer employs. That theme might be healing or redemption or cowardice. It might be independence or protection or betrayal. Loyalty, abuse, or dealing with issues such as illness. It might be inspiring, encouraging, offering hope. Regardless, every author has a theme. Writers often say, I want to make the bestseller list. I want to be published in hard cover. I want to be sent on tour. I want larger print runs, more money, broader audiences. All of that is fine--and business aspects should be addressed by those writers who write to sell. But can writers write-to-sell and have a defined goal for their body of work? Do they? That's the question of interest to me. When I first started writing, I set a standard for myself on the books I write. I must love them. That's shorthand, of course, and I know what it takes for me to love a book enough to be willing to invest a share of my life into writing it. For me, that love includes purpose. Every book I write, every story I plot, has a purpose that resonates with me and that I hope will resonate with readers. So that they will see something just a little differently after reading the book than they did before reading it. Something that turns on a light, broadens a perspective, shows that unknown options exist and anyone can utilize them if they choose to do so and act on the choice. So writing with purpose isn't a new concept to me. But those goals have defined the purpose for writing a specific book--each specific book. I've never before considered them in relation to the body of work I'm creating. My body of work has not had a defined purpose. It has not had a single goal that can be attributed to all of the books except in the broadest of terms. I've been remiss!!! So begins my exploration for that specific body-of-work purpose--and Mr. Emerson's quote, for me, defines it perfectly. I have a starting point, I am a genius. Not bragging or complaining, just stating a fact with no more or less importance placed on it than on the fact that I am a woman. I had nothing to do with either designation or attribute; the characteristics were divined, like having blonde hair, blue eyes and a crooked nose. But recognition of the human condition? That, I--we all--can choose to do. To notice, acknowledge and either accept or reject. And I can choose the value I place on that recognition. Every human being can. Every writer can. And that's now the mission. To clearly define my goal for the body of work I'm creating, recognizing the human condition and the value in it. Mr. Emerson's insight humbles me. How brilliant he was to recognize and verbalize the importance of this. At times, our own rejected thoughts do come back to us both alien and majestic. And at times, from a mere few words strung together with purpose by someone who has pondered life and humanity and the human heart, we glimpse the mysteries and discover that which we had failed to notice or recognize. We become aware of what we had neglected. That awareness is a valuable gift. In it is an opportunity to change that circumstance. A chance to redefine our purpose, to hone it so that it becomes clearer to us in our vision of what we want to do with our lives. Writing requires physical work, yes. But it carries equal demands on our emotions--the method through which we connect with readers--and spiritually--our shared perspectives, attitudes, fears and ideas, beliefs and hopes and dreams. We relay our experiences, define the world and people around us. We attribute qualities that appeal and repulse us. Through our stories and the characters in them, we live. And life, being precious and elusive and ours for only a short time, should be lived with intention. The clearer our vision of what we hope to accomplish through our writing, the more successful we are at defining and fulfilling intent. I'm reminded of something I once heard about the end of life. I can't quote it directly; it's been a long time since I heard it. But it was about not reaching the end of life neat and tidy. It was about skidding in sideways, exhausted and used up, thinking, "What a ride!" Used up, as in replete, content and satisfied that you'd explored all that most mattered to you. Without regret that you'd always played by the rules and always ended up on the short end of the stick without much satisfaction to show for a tremendous amount of effort. All mortal life ends. It's how it's lived that matters. I kind of like that skidding in sideways visual image--so I'm going to keep it, and Mr. Emerson's insight, in mind and further define my body-of-work goals. Hmm. Two lines of text and it's been on my mind for three days. I've read hundred thousand word books that didn't linger three hours. Haven't you? Imagine... To have that kind of residual effect, to have someone read your book and then ponder on it as it relates to their own life... Now that's a goal for a body of work, isn't it? And that's what's on my mind this morning... Well, one of two things. The other is wondering why this emerald ring that popped up unexpectedly in the writing is so determined to be significant. I have no idea why, or to whom--yet.* Blessings, Vicki C2008, Vicki Hinze
c2008, vickihinze
WARNING: This is a no-edit zone...
Regardless of career field, at some point and time, most people are confronted with the need to reinvent themselves. The reasons that prompt the reinvention are as varied as we are.
WHY REINVENT?
It may be a personal choice. The career path you’d been on, just doesn’t fit you anymore. Personal tragedies, events that have a profound impact on you, maturity and/or personal growth can ignite the desire to reinvent. We change. What we want to do with our lives change. If the change is significant, and important enough to us, we reinvent, knowing we’ll be starting over and working our way up the proverbial ladder--again.
Writers often reinvent themselves--some, many times during the course of a career. Lines/imprints come and go, demand rises and falls, risky books fail, some elect to ghost write for others and avoid all the ancillary work a writer’s called on to do. There are a thousand reasons--and all of them start with something changing. The writer, the market, sales performance, passion for what one is doing...
It may be as a result of changing times. New technology and applications has had a profound impact on people needing to reinvent to stay employed, for what they’re doing professionally to stay relevant. I’m not talking so much about trends but about advances that redefine industries and the work done in them.
I’m recalling the time when personal computers first began to appear in small businesses and a then employee told her boss that she had kept books fine without a computer for years and would continue to do so. He encouraged her to take the training the company was offering, but she refused. Not too long afterward, she ended up between the rock and hard place. Her work--the means by which she did it--had become obsolete, and since she refused to embrace the new way of doing things, she had become obsolete. She ended up unemployed because she refused to reinvent herself.
Most degrees are obsolete within five years of getting them. Most people realize that they can’t rely on what they know now to carry them through a long-term future. They must continue to grow and expand their skills. Some, like the woman above, elected not to do so. Her choice, and the outcome of it is also her responsibility. The moral of that story is, of course, to keep learning and growing--and, probably most importantly, to keep an open mind.
COMMON REINVENTION MISTAKES
Chasing Trends. One of the most common mistakes made in reinvention is that the person chases a perceived trend. The challenge of course is that by the time the trend is identified, it’s often saturated or out of vogue. Unfortunately, this happened with many writers a few years ago when suspense became so popular. Suddenly people who had no interest in suspense (and were gifted in other forms of writing) switched to writing suspense because of its popularity. A similar event occurred in “chick-lit” after Bridget Jones: a decision that has since had many of those same authors reinventing themselves and their careers yet again.
Ignoring strengths. All too often, a writer will read a book, or several books, that are outside the normal sphere, enjoy them and decide to write one. S/he does, enjoys it, and then writes another. But along about book three, the writer isn’t enjoying the new type of book anymore and interest has waned in writing them.
Maybe the new type of book doesn’t play to the writer’s strengths. Maybe it doesn’t challenge her, or the practical subjects for the novels bore her to tears. No one in this position does their best work, and because the writer ignored her strengths in making this “leap” to a new kind of book, now she has to suck it up and produce anyway (a great way to kill creativity and produce substandard work), or reinvent again. Which is one way of saying, Writer, know thyself before you leap.
That leads to the biggest, worst reinvention mistake we make:
Uniformed decisions. Far too often the writer will choose a different genre or type of work because things aren’t great in the work s/he’s doing. Because someone else is encouraging her to change what s/he’s doing. Because s/he’s done what s/he’s doing for a long time and s/he creatively yearns for an enthusiasm infusion that comes with tackling something new and different. But rather than approach the possibility of reinvention analytically, taking into account the writer (human being and artist) and the market potential, the writer just jumps.
Too often, the writer reinvents with too little thought given to the human being in the writer. It’s all about career potential, sales. Those things are important, yes, but so is the human being in the writer. If there is no contentment, excitement--no passion--for what you will be doing, then the specific reinvention choice isn’t the right one. Keep looking.
Any reinvention worth doing is worth the analysis required to do it well. Only by doing the work can you have any assurance that you are making the right choice for the right reason. Remember, you aren’t reinventing your career to become someone else. (That’s true even if your covers cite another name!) You’re reinventing yourself to reveal a new aspect of you.
You are at the center of your work. And you should be at the core of your reinvention. Regardless of why you are reinventing, whatever you morph to should be an outgrowth of who you’ve become, are becoming, or want to become.
That is the single most thing that writers tend to miss in transforming. And the single most thing that others miss in revamping their career strategies.
Change often stems from necessity. Sometimes it stems from desire. In analyzing your specific case, understanding why you’re reinventing, planning a solid strategy for doing it that incorporates you (your strengths, goals, dreams and desires), increases your odds of a successful reinvention.
A tip from the trench: Follow your bliss.
I did a post on this not too very long ago, so I won’t bore you with repeating it, but if your passion is engaged, little can hold you back or down or dissuade you.
Don’t consider any reinvention that doesn’t ignite a fire in you that burns so hot you think you’ll melt from the inside out. That will sustain you through the transformation, through the onslaught of those asking if you’ve lost your mind for getting off a successful track to get on an unknown one, through the challenges of starting over and working your way up the ranks again--or again after having done it before (maybe several times).
Embrace the passion and follow your bliss.
When you reinvent yourself embracing the passion and following your bliss, you’re nearly there on fulfillment and contentment. Imagine... Being nearly there coming out of the gate.
None of us had that much going for us in our first professional invention, did we?
Blessings,
Vicki
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WARNING: This is a no-edit zone... Since I’ve received so many notes asking about the changes on the site, I thought I’d answer here. In short, someone has too much time on their hands and not enough substance to use it constructively, so they’ve been clipping my articles, attaching them and my name to spam, largely on sites dedicated to mature content. (Read between the lines and you’ll get the malicious gist of it.) Not only is this copyright infringement, it’s a greater offense because I have a lot of minor students who use the writers’ library because they’re interested in learning to write or in becoming writers. If one uses a search engine rather than coming directly to this site, one is apt to see photos and read content one shouldn’t--and doesn’t want to--read. So I filed reports with the FBI and they’ve been terrific. All of this has sidetracked me from my own work, trying to undo the nastiness. I’ve lost mental track of the number of abuse reports filed, the number of notices of copyright violations, etc. (Yes, I did retain hard copies, electronic copies and backups. I’ve nearly filled a flash drive with this nonsense.) Authorities and an electronic investigator have been hard at work running all this down to nip this challenge in the bud. A head’s up warning: do check your yahoo groups. I discovered my public email address had been subscribed to lists I hadn’t or wouldn’t join. I had no idea. (Lesson learned: monitor all.) Anyway, with all of this going on, I had to do something to a) protect the young adults from exposure as best I am able and b) protect my copyrights. So I moved the Writers’ Library to a private access site. It requires an ID and password (more work on this end), is monitored (even more work on this end) and is computer specific (yet even more work on this end). There were two choices: stop sharing or go private access. I elected to go private access. I don’t like it, library users (I’m sure) don’t like it (though they’ve expressed understanding and support, for which I’m grateful). But one of my missions in life is to mentor and so it’s an extra effort I wish I didn’t have to take, but I will take to not be derailed from my mission. Initially, I was advised to put my Faith Zone blog posts on the private access site as well as the Writers’ Library. Actually, I was advised to put the instructional blog posts written here in My Kitchen Table, the Faith Zone posts, my podcasts and the Writers’ Library on the private access site. I did move the Faith Zone and Writers’ Library. But the Faith Zone being behind closed doors really rubbed me raw. I write it to share my spiritual journey so others can see we all stumble and fumble and fall to our knees, scrape our noses and still get up and move forward again. That’s the entire purpose of sharing it. If it’s locked behind closed doors, so to speak, then it can’t fulfill its purpose for existing. So again I was at a crossroad and it was decision time. Do I allow someone with poor judgment (committing destructive acts just to annoy or damage rather than focusing on their own personal, constructive forward momentum IS poor judgment) to interfere? Or do I elect to drop the project? Dropping it would have been easier. Much easier than this negative time-eater (for me and others!). But, you know, that’s a cut-and-run resolution to this challenge, and that’s no solution at all. So I prayed a lot, moved many of the Faith Zone posts back into the open forum, and have some monitoring assistance that is exceptional at doing what they do. And I recall something my dad once said and I’ve not forgotten: “If it’s worth doing, it’s worth fighting for. If it’s not worth fighting for, why are you doing it?” Faith Zone is worth doing. Going through the private access site challenges is worth doing. Nipping copyright infringements and adopting a zero-tolerance policy on them is worth doing. The added demands on my time and resources to mentor with the library are worth doing. Bottom line, I’m doing what I believe has worth. So that’s what’s going on. It’s why my posting has been sporadic. It’s why things are shuffling around and processes and permissions are changing. It’s why I’m taking a bit longer to respond to emails and why I’ve recruited a little extra help. I nicknamed her “The Enforcer” and him “The Hammer.” ☺ If you happen across a violation, please let me know. If we allow this nonsense, we’re doomed to more of it. Getting away with it only encourages more of it and for others prone to this type of thing to violate us, too. I don’t like feeling violated, and I’m sure you don’t, either. So it’s on to pro-active time. Here’s a quick list on what’s where now: My Kitchen Table blog is public and HERE on the writing website. (www.vickihinze.com) Faith Zone blog is public and HERE on the writing website. (www.vickihinze.com) Kids’ Faith Zone blog is public and at www.faithzonegran.com. (Audio has been added.) Writers’ Library is on a private access site. Apply for access HERE. Newsletters are public and HERE on the writing website. (www.vickihinze.com) Readers’ Discussion Guides for readers’ groups are on the individual Book Pages. Podcasts are public and HERE on the writing website. (www.vickihinze.com) Everything else remains the same. One note: There are still a few posts in the Private Access Site FAITH ZONE blog that have not been migrated back to the public site. So that’s what’s been going on here. It hasn’t been fun, but it certainly has been informative. Soon, I’ll post a Tip Sheet on things you might want to check to make sure none of the nonsense is going on with you--and if it is, what countermeasures you can take. It’s worth it. You’re worth it. Blessings, Vicki
©2008,
Vicki Hinze
This morning, a mother realized her greatest fear. Her
daughter, she thought, overslept, and so she went in to awaken her. Her
daughter had died in her sleep. Quietly. Without fanfare or bedside
vigils. Without a deathwatch. She just slipped away.
She was an only child. She was the core of her mother’s
world. And she passed without her mother having an inkling that death was
coming, had arrived, had spirited her daughter away.
We who believe know that her soul is safe. That she was not
alone because we are never alone. But her mother is desolate that her
daughter died alone and that mother is left in deep mourning, raging against
this death. She’s lost her husband, lost her two sisters in the past
year--and now her daughter. She is devastated, despondent, and feeling
each one of those losses again with the full force she felt them the first
time. All at once.
She doesn’t want platitudes or kind words. Her sorrow is so
deep that they fall on empty ears. She doesn’t want sympathy; it changes
nothing, and she is, she feels, still alone.
This misery is too deep to be borne. A mother, she says,
should not outlive her child. Death is a mean, merciless master.
This is not the time to tell her that death is a natural part of
life. The only way to avoid it is to not be born--and its coming for
anyone is never at a convenient time for those who love us. They don’t
want us to go--at least, not until they look outside themselves and see
suffering and pain and then they accept that one’s death isn’t about them, it’s
about the one doing the dying, and they’ve suffered enough, welcome the
respite, embrace the end of suffering.
This is not the time to tell her of He who conquered death.
She knows Him. She knows this but the loss of her daughter has clouded
her mind, as grief does every mind for a time.
To everything there is a season, and this is her season to
mourn.
And so I’ll offer her no platitudes or reminders or even kind
words or sympathy. I’ll give her what she needs now when she most needs
it: I’ll listen.
She’ll work through the shock, suffering yet another loss, the
shattered heart, the grief that runs so deep inside it permeates the marrow of
her bones. She’ll go through the motions of what must be done and
tolerate the well meaning acts and good intentions of others and she’ll grit
her teeth and bite her tongue and privately wail her sorrow while uttering all
the right things to all the right people, wondering why in heaven she should care
to draw another breath.
But she will breathe. She will survive. And she will
go on. Because that’s what we do. And when the shock wears off and
its protective numbness fades and the ache is still raw, then she will remember
where her darling daughter is now. What awaits her. She will
remember He who conquered death and went ahead to prepare a place for us, for
her child. She will turn to Him, desolate, and He will comfort her in
ways no mortal can. And when He does, she will heal. She will again
see worth in life and beauty and reason to go on.
She will remember that while her husband and sisters and now her
daughter are no longer physically with her, she is not and never has been and
never will be alone.
But today... Today begins her season to mourn. And so today,
I will remember those things for her, and I will listen...
Blessings,
Vicki
THE AGE OF RAGE ©2008, Vicki Hinze
WARNING: This is a no-edit zone...
Writers connect characters to readers through emotions. That makes it vital to understand them. Otherwise, the odds diminish of depicting them accurately or of having the reader react to whatever is depicted the way the writer intends the reader to react.
We live in an age of rage. Where people once exercised restraint, today they are far more apt to cut loose and let the fur fly--often with little or no provocation, and too often with no thought about the consequences. There was a time not too long ago, when terms like “road rage” weren’t part of our vocabulary. Where watching a group of teenage girls beat up another teenage girl wasn’t broadcast and considered entertainment.
There are a lot of angry people out there, and yet if we limit anger to only the negative, then we’ve missed the best half of its value. Because like most things in life, anger can be positive or negative.
First we need to make to sure we see anger clearly.
Anger isn’t an action. It is a reaction. It is the effect of an underlying cause.
That cause can be someone doing something that hurts you--intentionally or unintentionally, professionally or personally. Something that appalls you, something that scares you. (Note that all three are emotions, writers.) Let’s look at a couple of examples:
If someone makes a false accusation against you, odds are pretty good your reaction will be anger.
If you pull a week of overtime on a project for the boss and the coworker supposedly helping you did nothing but takes full credit for all your work, odds are pretty good your reaction will be anger.
If your daughter wears your favorite jacket without your permission and wrecks it or loses it, odds are pretty good your reaction will be anger.
If you write a chapter and haven’t saved it and the power goes out and it’s lost forever, odds are very good your reaction will be anger.
If someone steals your car, your wallet, or your name for the purpose of damaging your reputation, you can bet your reaction will be anger.
Personally and/or professionally, we react with anger to injustice. To things we consider universally just plain wrong.
But we also at times react with anger when no malice or intent to harm is intended. In fact, we sometimes react in anger when we’re not even directly involved.
You instruct your child not to do something. The child does it anyway. You’re not harmed, but you are angry.
Someone you care about gets sick. You yell at the doctor--outraged from the tip of your head to the soles of your feet.
Why?
Because other emotions are fueling the fire. Often that other emotion is fear.
You fear the sick person will die. You rage against the fear of death, but death isn’t someone you can shout out, so you pick a victim present: the doctor, or nurse or ambulance attendant--anyone will do.
People typically look for someone to blame. It makes them feel more secure, like they’re more in control, to be able to point a finger and say, “It’s his/her fault.” So to feel less vulnerable, they look for someone upon whom they can focus their fear which manifests in the form of anger. They might even choose the individual who is sick!
Fear, frustration, insecurity. Injustice, an inability to manipulate, a loss of control, a failure to achieve a desired outcome--all of these emotion-based reasons, and others like them, can manifest as anger. But remember, anger is the reaction, not the action. It’s the effect, not the cause. The primary core emotion sparking the reaction is the catalyst.
Anger, you see, isn’t an innate reaction. It’s a learned response. A simple example:
When a child hits himself with a hammer, he cries.
When an adult hits himself with a hammer, he cusses.
One reacts to pain with tears.
The other reacts with anger.
A learned response.
The primary causes and effects discussed thus far are largely negative. But anger has a whole different side. A valuable side, and our characters should react to it just as people do. On this side of the proverbial scales, anger is constructive.
It acts as a catalyst to motivate us to do constructive things (versus destructive ones) we wouldn’t have done or couldn’t have done without that motivation. An example:
A doctor lost his father early in life to a heart attack. The son was furious. Now he could have let that anger eat him alive, or even destroy him. He could have grown so bitter that it poisoned him and stole his destiny. But he didn’t. Instead he channeled his anger constructively--and went on to create the first artificial heart.
Anger can motivate us to stretch and grow. It can inspire us to change, to do better and more than believed we were capable of doing. Anger can infuse us with determination, give us the courage to try things we never dreamed of trying--and to keep on trying until we achieve them.
Anger can impact us in ways that change the course of our entire lives--define our life’s purpose.
When we think of anger, we often think of abuse and only its negatives. We neglect to remember the good that can come from it (the anger, not the abuse). Anger isn’t so much about the emotion, though we should understand the ramifications of that, too.
Anger always has ramifications. Some are negative, but some are definitely positive. And we get to choose which our anger will be.
Anger channeled improperly causes stress. Stress kills. It’s that simple. But before it kills, it makes us sick. Headaches, digestive challenges, spastic colon problems and so many more physical challenges manifest as a result of anger (and other negative emotions) not being processed in a positive way.
Anger channeled properly inspires and infuses us with abilities we had but didn’t know we had. Inspires us to gain new skills, new abilities that serve us in all areas of our lives because they broaden our experience and give us deeper wells to draw from in doing things we want to do. Things we’re meant to do.
So, yes, we live in an age of rage. And, yes, many factors contribute to it. What we need to remember is that rage is a reaction--neither a cause nor an action. We all know that every action causes a reaction. Every cause has an effect. And we know that regardless of what that cause and action are, we control our reactions and effects. We choose our response.
We all get angry. We all have hot buttons that someone’s going to push. We know that, too.
What we need to decide is how we’re going to react to having our hot-buttons pushed. We can react negatively--whether it’s firing off a nasty email filled with half-truths or taking a swing at the person offending us--or constructively--whether it’s holding our tongues and promising ourselves we won’t treat others unfairly or we’ll use that anger to build a better mousetrap.
I study a fair amount on abuse; you guys know that. I have for over thirty years. One thing that abusers often say to their victims is, “You made me hurt you.” That or they tell others, “S/he made me do it.”
Definitely improperly channeled anger there. The abuser got angry. S/he chose to hurt, to do it, and we’re all too familiar with the horrific forms “it” can take.
So when you’re writing characters, and in living your own life, understand that anger is normal. Even the most disciplined and most holy get angry. God got angry, and He’s got supernatural powers. We’re mere mortals. So it isn’t that we should fight to not feel the emotion, anger. It’s that we should exercise self-control and channel that anger constructively.
Constructive channeling. Now that’s a valuable weapon when living in an age of rage...
Blessings,
Vicki
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WARNING: This is a no-edit zone...
This morning, I awakened to discover the following:
“It doesn’t matter how good or bad the product is, the fact is that people don’t read anymore. Forty percent of the people in the U.S. read one book or less last year.”
Steve Jobs--Amazon
Troubling insight from a human being’s point of view and from a writer’s.
Any writer who has been publishing books for a length of time can tell you that the industry has changed mightily in the last decade. Any reader can tell you that, too. But their perspectives on those changes are significantly different.
Writers note more writers and fewer publishing slots. They note smaller print runs. They note the logical decrease in earnings. Writers also note fewer books available in fewer places in the market.
At one time, you could walk into stores like Wal-Mart, Target, and K-Mart and you’d find book departments. Over time, those departments have winnowed down to where some have a single aisle of shelving. Others still have more space, but nowhere near the square footage in the store that they once did.
Several factors, in my humble opinion, attribute to this. READ MORE
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I stayed up late last night doing critiques. I thought I’d get three or four done--as always, I have a stack to do. I didn’t. I got one done and a solid start on a second one.
Some would cringe at devoting that much time to a single entry. But writers are a giving lot and helping each other is the norm, so you’ll see no cringing there, though it does make for rough schedules. But it’s worth it, and one of the reasons I love the profession. We train our competition--willingly, and take great joy in doing so. This entry was worth every second of time devoted to it.
You see, storytelling is the sole element that can’t be taught. I’ve said it many times and believe it down to the marrow of my bones. You’ve got it or you don’t. And this entry was written by a wonderful storyteller with a unique voice that captivated. The story was perfect for its targeted genre. The characters were well developed, worthy of their story roles. So with all of this being so right, what was the time-eating challenge?
Mechanics. This terrific story and these terrific characters were mired down in a tomb of mechanical pitfalls. When that happens, it jars the reader the way a jackhammer jars your teeth and blows out your ears. When we read, we do so with that inner ear, and so cadence and rhythm (and pacing) are critically important.
Every year for many years I’ve polled editors at major publishers and asked why they most often rejected manuscripts. And every year for many years, these same things surface. Oh, there are the usual rejections because the proposed project didn’t fit on the publisher’s list, and the similarities between the writing of existing authors on the publishers’ lists with the proposed project, but overwhelmingly, mechanical challenges topped the list.
That’s good news. Mechanics can be taught.
If you’d like to read more on the top mechanical challenges (those that surface again and again on the poll), there’s an article in my website writer’s library (www.vickihinze.com in the A-P Library. Common Mechanical Pitfalls).
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An FYI
1. It’s my turn to post on Clever Divas today. The article is on Cyberstalking. What it is, what is done, what you can do about it, who can help. Did you know that many victims don’t know they’re victims until danger escalates? If you’d care to read the article, the Clever Divas link () will take you to it.
2. For the next week, I’ll be teaching an online workshop for ACRA members, CHARACTERS—LIVE! If you’re not a member of ACRA and would like to attend, please contact me. I’m not sure of the policy, but I’ll see what I can do.
Back to my cave--multiple deadlines today!
Blessings,
Vicki
Tags: author, characters, CREATIVE WRITING, cyberstalking, novelist, online workshops, Vicki Hinze, workshops, writer, writer's library